The foundation for being the best version of yourself is this. You cannot always want to be yourself and constantly seek affirmation from outside. No dear. It doesn’t work that way. The basis of self-love must be generated internally.
Sometimes, being you can be difficult especially if you want to win the approval of others or fit in.
Everyone has weaknesses or things that could potentially draw us back from doing what we really intend to do. What we don’t realize is that with that same weakness comes the opportunity to learn and grow.
Before we delve deeper, you should know that what you think of yourself is the foundation to becoming the best version of yourself.
Your mindset matters a lot; If you constantly live in bitterness, self-pity, anger, anxiety, lust or you keep certain bad habits, that is what you’re likely to build on (consciously or unconsciously).
On the other hand, if you live with a positive mindset, fulfillment and peace, that is likely to become your foundation for being the best version of yourself.
I mean, you should know who you are.
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Just to be clear, if think you’ve got it all or that you’re perfect, then you’re in the wrong place.
To be the best version of yourself;
1.Do a self-evaluation test.
Write down the things you like about yourself and the things you wish to change or improve. Keep that list where you can see it every morning. Read it out loud to yourself every day if you have to.
Be accountable to someone so you stay on course.
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2. Learn “people skills” and be willing to change.
I am in no way saying you should bend over for others. We all need to sacrifice every now and then but keep your sanity.
Be flexible! Change may seem risky but don’t stay where you’ll die. Adapt.
C’mon, no one is an island. We need someone to tell us ,”it’s okay, when things are hard”. Someone to share in our joy and successes. We were made to connect with each other.
You can be an introvert, like me but social skills are important. Whatever you intend to do can become a success depending on the network you build.
3. Discover your passion or purpose in life.
You were made to bloom.
Purpose is about impact. It goes beyond you. This is probably one of the most asked question of all times. What is my purpose in life?
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4. .Have boundaries and principles.
These drive the right people into your life and shoots up your value
There should be a difference between inner circle people, outer circle people and acquaintances. That doesn’t mean we should be hostile to new people. Have your checks before opening your boundaries while being friendly.
Don’t prioritize people who only treat you like an option.
5. Take responsibility of your actions
This helps make you a problem solver. It is not your job to fix others but to help them realize their need to be better people. Sometimes, it might not be your fault but if you can do something about the situation, do it. You’ll soon become the go-to person when anyone needs help with something. This is impact.
6. Try new things
I said, being your own best, not comparing yourself to others. Stay in your own path. Off-course, try the positive things but develop your own style.
Please don’t kill yourself o. I mean creative things that help you keep your peace either with the right people or on your own.
I will share with you soon 5 fun things I have been doing this year to spice up my life. These are things that never occurred to me to do earlier. I’m so excited. I wish you could see me jumping here!
7. Dress like how you would want to be addressed now and when you get to where you want to be.
Dress to reflect what you stand for. Now, A (left) or B (right)?
In a way that makes you comfortable. You don’t necessarily have to wear expensive stuff. Keep it comfy and neat.
It boosts your confidence and makes you stand out. Oh, don’t forget to dress your insides too
Because eventually, people would want to get to know you more.
Don’t scare them off with your attitude.
8. Read about the random things that interest you and slash half of the time you spend browsing randomly on social media.
You could spend at least 15 minutes reading something new. It doesn’t always have to be serious stuff.
9.Don’t expect someone else to bring out the best in you.
No matter the number of people who affirm you, if it’s not internally generated, it will not last and you’ll feel empty again. Outer affirmation is just the icing on the cake.
You will be constantly be disappointed if you can’t be happy on your own.
10.Have enough rest. Take care of your health so that you can live long enough to live a fulfilled life.
Learn to eat vegetables on a daily basis, exercise, take your medications, hangout with friends and don’t stress yourself with work. Have a hobby, do something fun with friends and family.
Smile often. Cry, mourn, if you have to…….but smile often…..
You can set a goal for yourself daily, weekly, monthly or yearly. One that would help you develop yourself positively to curtail all of that anger, anxiety and self-pity. Let me know how that goes when you do and if you have ever tried that before. So much love from this side. It’s time to date you……
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